One of the biggest challenges of wedding planning is dealing with family drama, emotions, and demands. Owner of 100 Braid St Studios, Susan L. Greig, a former wedding and event planner, suggests that you ask parents or significant family members the following questions when starting to plan:
1. What do you feel are the three most important things about the wedding?
2. What are the three most important things you’d like to see happen?
Susan says this works especially well if relationships are strained and emotions about the wedding day are running high. “These questions will make your family members feel valued, heard, and will help you and them identify what is really important.” Sometimes something small like wearing an heirloom wedding accessory or a family ritual during a wedding reception can make all the difference in the world to a family member. In her experience, Susan says that tears are often shed when communication is opened, common ground is found, and very often you will find that your values do align.
“Assure the important people in your life that you will try to include as many of the important details to them into the day as you can. In the end you may not be able to do them all but you will have opened communication and set the stage for precious moments both before and during your wedding day.”
For a comprehensive discussion about this topic download our 100 Braid St Gift entitled 100 Braid St Weddings-Family Drama Suggestions & Tips